Thursday, March 6, 2014

What a Weekend

Friday night was opening night for Fiddler on the Roof and I got to go be an usher.  I already wrote about how great the show is, so I’ll skip that this time, but ushering is a fun gig, cause you get to see the show and I got to scan tickets which I enjoyed.  I don’t know why, but I really love really basic, simple tasks like that.  I guess that says a lot about me, basic and simple.  Anyway, I got to see the show Thursday night and Friday night.   Friday night was also a huge Stake Mini Mission activity for our youth.  All the  kids who attended got a mission call a few nights before the activity.  Abby was called to Milan, Italy and Anna was called to Lisbon, Portugal mission. 

All the kids met at the Stake Center that evening for a fireside by a former mission president and his wife.  Then they had some activities to learn about the cultures of their mission as well as a few others.  Then the beehives and deacons (Abby) had to go home because they’re not old enough to participate in overnighters.  Anna couldn’t go either because of the play.  The kids were divided up into small groups and sent to host families where I think they discussed the Preach My Gospel program.  They slept at the host homes and then reconvened in the morning at the Stake Center.  Anna was able to join in Saturday morning.  They had breakfast and then got to go knock on doors (in the church buildings) and share the Gospel with people asked to participate and pretend to be hearing it for the first time.  I helped shuttle some young men and they were so enthusiastic about it, I was so impressed.  I believe after that they met again and had a testimony meeting.  What a gigantic undertaking, but such a neat experience for these kids.

Saturday night, we took the kids to Fiddler.  We drove two cars knowing it might be too much for Josh, which it quickly was.  He doesn’t do quiet very well Winking smile).  Since I had already seen it, I took him home so Brennan and the big kids could enjoy it. 

We had learned about John’s fall earlier that day and then that he was most likely not going to survive the night right before leaving for the play.  We had prepped the older kids that things didn’t look good.  When Anna got in the car after the show, she asked Brennan if Grandpa had died.  He had just gotten word during the show that he had.  He nodded to confirm it discreetly so the other kids didn’t hear until we could sit them down at home and tell them.  I guess Abby saw the exchange and by the time they got home Anna and Abby were both in tears and Nate walked right in to me asking if Grandpa John had died.  Poor Ben was totally unprepared and oblivious to what was happening.  I had Nate sit by me and waited for them all to gather in the family room.  Brennan told them what had happened and poor Ben just crumbled.  They were all so sad, we tried to comfort them with assurances that he is at peace and with Heavenly Father.   Anna composed herself and quietly offered comfort to Ben and Nate.   I went to lay with Ben in his bed since he was so upset.  He calmed down and I thought was finally asleep when he surprised me by whispering, “Mom, is Grandpa ok?”  I assured him that he is, that he is at peace and no pain.  He was quiet for another few minutes and then asked, “Mom, what is Grandma going to do?”  I was so touched that my little 7 year old boy was so concerned with his grandparents, not just with his loss, but he genuinely needed to know that they were ok. 

Sunday morning Brennan left to go be with his Mom.  We were sad to see him leave, but so glad he could go help her.   We went to church and Anna bore such a sweet testimony about her experience with the Priesthood.  About a week before the show opened, (on a Thursday) she woke up with tons of red bumps all over her face.  I didn’t even see her, she left for school and I finally saw her later that night.  We were slow to realize that I had just bought her a new face wash, toner and moisturizer with Benzoyl Peroxide in it which didn’t seem to bother her for a few days, but a few days later it caught up to her with a vengeance.  She stopped using the stuff and we were giving her Zyrtec in the day and Benadryl at night plus rubbing hydrocortisone cream on it twice a day, but by Sunday her face was still so swollen and red and bumpy, we weren’t seeing any real improvement.  She was so brave, chose to go to church in spite of her drastically altered appearance.  Our friend took a look at her and kind of panicked.  She wanted us to take her to the ER, but we settled on bugging her neighbor, a doctor.  He and his wife were so kind, and reassured us we were doing the right things, but had us add Pepcid, which is evidently a histamine blocker.  He told us if we didn’t see improvement in 24 hours to take her in for a steroid treatment. 

That night my parents had us over for dinner and we took that opportunity to have my Dad and Brennan give Anna a blessing.  In just a few days she would have to have full stage makeup on which we were instructed not to do until her face had gotten back to normal.   Brennan asked my Dad to bless her.  He first asked her if she had the faith to be healed.  She did.  He blessed her that she would be healed according to her faith and her willingness to pray and really ask.  She came home from school on Wednesday looking completely like herself!  I thought for sure it would have to peel and be kind of a mess before it got better, but it just completely faded, all the bumps and redness and swelling just went away.  Her own miracle.  What a blessing!

Needless to say, it was quite a weekend, exciting, sad, and exhausting!  We are so blessed, even in death we have comfort and peace.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Fiddler on the Roof

Anna tried out for her high school’s musical production and made it to the ensemble.  They did “Fiddler on the Roof”.  Last Thursday night was their final dress rehearsal and parent preview.  I was once again caught off guard by a rush of emotion as the show began that night.  I think it was partly due to the thrill of seeing for the first time, the scenery in place, the costumes perfected and a cast of 100+hard working high school students fill the stage.

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I know that it was also in part because it was one of those moments that I remember so vividly living in my high school years just two seconds ago, and yet here I was watching my daughter.  As they sing in Sunrise, Sunset “I don’t remember growing older, when did they?” 

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The show is wonderful!  I have now seen it about 3.5 times and I still love it!  The boy who plays Tevye is just incredible!  It’s a very talented cast and such a great show. 

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Anna is so good.  She has such a beautiful voice and such a pleasant stage presence.  It’s so exciting to watch her be so confident on stage.  I’m so grateful she’s had this opportunity!  We love Anna!

John S. Williams–Grandpa

On Saturday, March 1, 2014, John fell and hit his head.  Jamie took him to the hospital where they discovered a brain bleed.   His health had been declining rapidly the last few years.  He was on oxygen and was becoming more and more limited in terms of mobility and just even staying awake.  It was so sad to see him, once so strong become so frail and thin.  Jamie took such good care of him, he was proud and wasn’t always a very cooperative charge, but she did everything she could to help him.    I can only imagine how scary, exhausting and lonely it has been for both John and Jamie these last few years.

The first time I met John was shortly after Brennan and I got engaged.  John was in town for business and Brennan was out of town for work, so John took me to lunch.  I was so nervous, but he was so polite and such a gentleman I quickly relaxed.  I remember him talking about Jamie and many of her accomplishments.  It was obvious he was so proud of her, I thought that was sweet.  John was always good to me. 

Shortly before we got married my parents invited John and Jamie to dinner at our house.  It was probably only the 2nd or 3rd time I’d met them and the first time my parents met them.  It was going fairly well.  My brother, Christian, came upstairs and met John and Jamie for a few minutes and then excused himself as he had to go somewhere.  A few minutes later, a very pale Christian stood came back in and motioned for me.  I followed him to another room where he told me he backed into John and Jamie’s new car.  I could have died.  Poor Christian was beside himself.  I went in and motioned for Brennan and we filled him in.  He kind of laughed but wasn’t very helpful in predicting how John and Jamie would react.  It was finally time to face the music, so we accompanied Christian into the dining room where he confessed his crime.  John and Jamie both laughed and the three of us took a collective breathe of relief.  It was so nice, it could have been so awful, but they were so gracious.   I will remember and be grateful for that moment forever.

John was so game about visiting us in Arizona and then here after we moved.  He was generous and always spoiled us by picking up the tab at dinner which was always such a treat for us.  Whenever he and Jamie came into town we all looked forward to dinner at The Olive Garden. 

John preferred to stick to things he knew and liked over variety.  I relate to that, especially in eating.  He loved my short ribs and so whenever they visited I always made them.  I always worried about them getting sick of them, but I don’t think he ever did. 

I’m grateful that he is free from ill health and discomfort that have plagued him these last few years.  I’m grateful that sweet Jamie doesn’t have to worry about him anymore. 

Goodbye, Grandpa John!

Emily wrote his obituary:

Williams, John obit

(July 16, 1946 – March 1, 2014)

John Steven Williams passed away on March 1, 2014 at Dixie Regional Medical Center in St. George, Utah. He was born July 16, 1946 in Salt Lake City, Utah to Silva Tayler and Howard Williams and the youngest of 4 brothers, Dick, Jim and Tom.

As a child John’s mischievous nature and ability to find trouble tested the limitations of his parents’ patience. John enjoyed playing football and baseball. Graduating from East High School in Salt Lake City and attending Weber State College. He graduated with honors from SUU, majoring in Business Administration with a minor in Accounting and Economics.

In 1970, John married Rebecca Yager and had the privilege of having two girls, Lori and Emily. Then through a later marriage he gained a son, Gerald.

He married the love of his life Jamie Spendlove on October 14, 1989. They enjoyed many years of traveling to Europe, Guatemala, China, Greece and Hawaii. Together they welcomed 13 grandchildren into their lives, who they loved and cherished.

In September of 1978, John was appointed as Executive Director of the Five County Association of Government. John was only the third person to serve in that capacity. John worked tirelessly throughout the 27 ½ years. John, along with the Five County Association of Government’s directed the evolution of the Association from an emphasis in unification of social services programs, to the creation of the Southwest Utah Public Health Department and the Southwest Mental Health Center, and to planning for anticipated, and later realized, growth in Beaver, Garfield, Iron, Kane and Washington counties.

During the 1990’s John helped the Association emphasize community and economic development projects, including corporate recruiting and corporate expansion. He played a key role in helping to bring the Wal-Mart distribution center to the region as well as the development of other industrial parks and businesses in this region. Under John, the Association took a prominent role in addressing population growth issues, public lands issues, metropolitan transportation planning, rural transportation delivery, and human services programs.

He is survived by his wife, Jamie Spendlove Williams; two daughters, Lori (Tony) Leonard and their three children, Michael, Zachary and Hailey, and Emily (Paul) Gates and their four children, Sean, Shea, Sheldon and Mya; son, Gerald (Teshia) Williams and their children Alexis Wyatt, Brendon, Abby and Ethan Williams; stepsons, Brett (Julie) Wright and Brennan (Andrea) Wright and their five children, Anna, Abby, Nate, Benjamin and Joshua; and also his three brothers, Dick, Jim and Tom Williams.

Funeral Services

  • Funeral services will be held Friday, March 7, 2014 at noon in the Riesley Chapel, 630 Riesling Ave., Santa Clara, UT.
  • There will be a viewing Friday from 10:30 a.m. until time of service at the chapel.
  • Interment will take place in the Tonaquint Cemetery.

January Photo Dump

Here are a couple more photos from January I want to get posted. 

 

Josh and Bear hanging, or more probably, Bear tolerating Josh’s “love”.

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Most nights around 11 pm, Josh comes stumbling out of bed and onto the couch for one last snuggle.  Can’t say that I mind it.

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Sledding day at Josh’s preschool

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Poor Josh was sick this day and could not get comfy, til he climbed in the dirty laundry where he slept cozily for about an hour.

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Nate has had his first indoor soccer season, and played some pretty impressive girls.

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Our trip to the Ice Castle, so cool!

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And last but not least, is this little trick of Ben’s.